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The Dark Side of Self Improvement

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As a person who likes learning and reading self- helpy stuff, I wanted to share this TedTalk by Suzanne Eder. Sometimes with my keen interest, I ignore or forget the not so helpful and even insidious things that go on behind self-improvement. With self-improvement there seems to be an inherent assumption that something is wrong with you. Eder says this can be harmful because we end up antagonizing ourselves as we focus on goals and less on the natural process of growth.

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Why Minimalism Appeals To Me

Short answer:

It eases varying degrees of anxiety, addresses some of my insecurities and makes me feel in control. It’s also the in thing right now among upwardly mobile yuppies so it feels extra better to do (social approval + free online resources).

Long answer:

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I learned how minimalism is a loaded term when I watched YouTube videos about it. Today I’m skipping all that and sticking with a general idea where it means simplifying different aspects of life to get value (whatever you consider it to be).

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Keeping Up With My 2019 Theme

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In the beginning of 2019, I shared that my theme for the year was to be kinder to myself. I said that I wanted new thoughts. Better and more helpful ones. I am still on that path or trying to be but I didn’t  share the how of it. How exactly would I be kinder to myself? How do I think new thoughts?

For something to work and happen, I often find that having a clear action item is key.

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I Tried Confident Creativity in 2018

Sooo last year, I was already a viewer of MuchelleB and other self-helpy people on Youtube. And themes instead of resolutions were (or still are?) a thing. Instead of making resolutions and feeling bad for not following through, deciding on some kind of theme was the recommended action.

For 2018 I decided to work on Confident Creativity because I wanted to do something apart from work. My work isn’t glam but on the happy side, it doesn’t require a lot of mental power, doesn’t drain me at the end of the day and my co-workers are productive, nice, fun people. So there was minimal stress (only if we had volume). I had time and energy for a hobby!

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